God save me from Helping!!!!!

Hesitation and help are words which is particular as well as sensitive.
We often have friends who in the name of help seek lot of favours
Now i am often confused whether i should consider it as favour or help
There is a thin wafer between exploitation and seeking help
I often find people especially girls who dump immediately what they have in thier head to others...
immediately after they hear or experience something they just search for people to dump it....
Its really traumatic to hear insignificant and silly things.....
Its almost like a live telecast of a daily experiences...
all this at the cost of professional work....
I would appreciate if there is a give and take in it....
I often hesitate to say 'No' to anybody who asks for help
The only reason being hesitation and also a want to keep this 'helping attitude' alive in human beings
If we observe the evolution ...the aspect of species which remained unused becomes extinct
And with the existing circumstances in the world ...i guess people have turned extremely selfish
They dont leave a space for the others to tell thier issues
Always they are ready to tell thier probs.....
Gone are the days where people offer help to others....i want to keep this alive
But finally the net result is that i am landing up hearing and helping too many things which are above my capacity and my memory often becomes full
Now i dont tell its problem with others...
Its problem with me that i am unable to deal with such situations
And i donot know how to avoid them...
Another big problem i have is....immediately i hear a problem...my mind automatically goes into solution mode...and searches for solutions...and i start giving suggestions and solutions
And here the opposite person is not ready to hear any solutions and especially when the solution needs them to change...
So what am i for ...just listener ...a dust bin ... a garbage collector.....
and even if they hear solutions why should i offer solution always
dont they think ...cant they manage thier simple life......
leave alone helping others ...i guess its waste to be not in a position to manage ones life....
thats a crime to the society ....being mentally dependant on others for each and every problem they face in life......
I read some where ....Men would rather die than to think...
I should change myself ...should be indifferent to the problems and not be so sincere...
i may landup in trouble......hearing and hearing problems.....am i being selfish..donno...
let me try